It isn’t always easy to know when someone you come into contact with is flirting with you or just being nice. There is not always that moment frozen in time when everything moves in slow motion, and is so quiet you can hear your every heart beat. Sometimes a flirtatious move sneaks up on you so quickly that by the time you notice it, it’s gone. So how do you know when it’s really happening, and when it’s all in your wishful imagination?
First it’s good to keep in mind that sometimes being nice is a way of flirting. Sometimes it’s a lot easier to just be super nice to someone you want to get to know much better, than it is to come right out and ask them out. If you are extra sweet and the other person doesn’t respond, or responds politely, but not in a flirty kind of way, at least you still have your pride. But if they act interested and go out of their way to take your interaction a little bit further, they are flirting back.
Being nice and going that extra mile to separate what you do for others from what you do for the person who’s attention you want to grab, is a good way of casually showing interest, but not being so forward that you scare them off. This may seem pretty basic and easy, but it isn’t so easy if you are the one on the receiving end of all the special favors.
When somebody you work with, or see on a regular basis, is extra nice to you, it can look and feel like they are interested in you, and want you to make the next move; but you may want to wait on that.
Some people are just naturally sweet and really mean nothing by it. And depending on the situation, the person who is going out of their way to wish you a great day, and a drive safely, may feel that is part of their job. They could also just be one of those people who makes everybody feel special.
One good way to find out is to observe the way they treat the other people they come into contact with. If there is no difference between the way they speak to you or look at you, and the other people they see, the mystery is solved. But even if they do behave differently, further investigation is needed.
The best way to find out if you are being flirted with is to casually acknowledge how sweet they are being and how lucky their significant other is. This will throw the ball back in their court, at which point they will go further and bounce it right back in yours, or it will be slammed to the side and off the court.