In today’s society we have all types of wedding styles. From casual and standard to retro and unique, weddings of all tastes, designs, and variations abound. A wedding is the best day of peoples lives so they have become a reflection of their personal tastes. The usual white gown wedding has been replaced with beach front hula weddings, cowboy themes, Star Trek ensembles, and a whole assortment of various wedding themes.
It’s not just about standard policy anymore, it’s about individualizing and sharing your personal style with your family and friends. It is about having a wonderful time and creating an atmosphere of love.
One of the most popular segments in any wedding, traditional white-wedding or not, is the reading of vows. Whether the wedding is religious based, personality based, traditional, or just plain unique, the reading and exchanging of vows is an integral part of most weddings. It is a very romantic moment and what a more perfect setting to express your inner most feelings toward your fiancé than at your own wedding?
Vows are not a ‘have to’. It is a choice made by the couple. Some weddings have officiant-procedure that may hinder the bride and groom from having the time and they may have to even decide to read a set of hand written words at the opening of the reception festivities. Other weddings, more religious based, will have pre-written vows that are a tradition and handed down from their churches or families. But most couples will choose to write their own vows, in their own words, and have the hired officiant create a time during the ceremony for the couple to exchange the vows.
Once the concept of the vows is chosen between the couple then it is time to begin the journey of writing some of the most powerful words you will ever speak. The hard part is figuring where to start.
Begin by sitting in a relaxed place and writing out all of the keywords that represents your feelings towards your partner. It may be easier with your partners help. The subject is based on the future and how you stand for your partner, through happy moments and sad, fights, troubles, bliss, and even life and death.
Search the web. There are a multitude of free verbiage tutorials for vow writing. Ask you officiant/minister and share your ideas with them. They may have a helpful word to lend. Your officiant may have a religious bend on the feelings you are sharing and can offer biblical verses that coincide or match your emotions. Remember that there are some religious wedding procedures that do not allow for tampering. Express your true feelings and the emotions that make your partnership a beautiful union. As long as you speak from the heart your vows will remain a lifelong memory in the hearts and minds of your family, friends, and most of all the one you love.